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While you certainly do not have to argue with your partner, it may happen. Do not beat yourself up but know that the quicker you resolve the conflict, the better you will feel.
If you are considering filing for divorce
, or have begun the process, it may be helpful to know what you can expect during this often emotional period of time. As your divorce lawyer can attest, every situation is different, but there are a few common insights that many divorced couples can share in regards to your road ahead.
Foremost, it is crucial that you have trusted legal counsel at your side, particularly if your soon-to-be-ex has hired an attorney. Your divorce lawyer can provide you with additional guidance and expertise on what to expect when you’re divorcing.
What to Expect When You File For Divorce
- Time. Your divorce may take longer than you expect, especially if children or money is involved. If you and your partner signed a premarital agreement prior to getting married, many of these issues may have likely been addressed and therefore, your divorce may be finalized quicker than you expect. Either way, your Los Angeles divorce lawyer can provide you with an estimated time line for your divorce.
- Arguments. While you certainly do not have to argue with your partner, it may happen. Do not beat yourself up but know that the quicker you resolve the conflict, the better you will feel.
- Emotional Children. If you and your partner had children together, you can expect them to feel many of the highs and lows that you are feeling, but in their own way (such as acting out, crying, attention seeking, or other problematic behavior). Encourage them to talk to you about how they feel and remind them that the divorce is not their fault. Perhaps counseling may be beneficial.
- Camaraderie. You’re going to meet other divorced men / women who remind you that you are not alone and help you get through this time. They may end up becoming some of the best friends you make in life.
- Shift in Family Dynamic. After you separate or file for divorce, the dynamic in your family and extended families will shift. For example, your ex’s family may not want to stay friendly with you.
- Dating. Your ex may start dating immediately. You may be hurt, disappointed, and/or angry over how quickly he or she moves on. It is important that you do, as well.
- Change in Friends. Some of your couple friends may not remain your close friends, perhaps because they were friends with your ex first or because they only like to spend time with couples. You may meet some new friends with whom you can relate and connect (see #4 above).
- Emotional Roller Coaster. Some days you will believe filing for divorce was the best decision you ever made, other days you won’t be so sure. Find someone you can confide in and share your true feelings with, whether it is a professional or close friend.